Parental child abduction is by itself devastating, but when compounded with parental alienation with false accusations of violence, an abductor’s criminal activity, and personal attacks on all those who have known and loved the children, it can be catastrophic.
This is an unbelievable but true story of the abduction of four US children taken from their custodial parent and their community, during a visitation by the non-custodial parent. The family was being monitored by court-appointed psychologists as well as Social Services for about three years.
After the father filed for divorce, the mother embarked on a campaign to alienate the children by beginning to accuse him and other family members of domestic violence. As reported in the Italian press (leading national paper La Repubblica and La Nazione), the mother, Marianne Grin, a Harvard educated lawyer who has dual US and Russian citizenship, was found by the court appointed psychologist (Dr. Armando Ceccarelli) to suffer from severe mental illness.
In his court report to Judge Papait in June 2011, Dr. Ceccarelli says “The mother’s behavior and her relationship with the children … As we have already observed in the occasion of the previous monitoring, Ms. Grin […] appears a person suffering psychologically. Her behaviors are unpredictable and bizarre, guided by paranoid fantasy, of being a subject of a ‘plot’ and of ‘persecution’ in part by the Tribunal and by the ‘institutions’ in general (she manifests a strong distrust even of Social Services and Pediatric Neuropsychiatry). Considering the behavioral picture that emerges from all people that have had contact with the mother, we believe that there should be a new deep psychiatric evaluation of Ms. Grin, there being strong suspicions of a very gravely disturbed personality. In a similar context of mental illness, the relationship of the mother with the children is of strong psycho-pathological risk.”
He goes on to say: “The benefit to the children of psychotherapy and the quality of the father’s environment (and not only the simple removal of the mother) are in our opinion the two principle resources to use to avoid that the children are damaged psychologically by the behavior of the mother.”
The court-appointed psychologist, Dr. Ceccarelli, did not recommend protected visits for the mother saying “The reduction in frequency or the change in mode of the visits would not reduce in fact, in our opinion, the risk of inducing psycho-pathologies, enhancing instead the experience of persecution and paranoia that the mother tends to induce in the children. Action of further “limitations” in time with the mother could in fact be read as “confirmation” of her paranoiac fantasies.”
Unfortunately Ms. Grin, unhappy with the court decision, acted at the end of August 2011 when she had her visitation days consecutively. She kidnapped the children, escaping from Italy, in clear violation of the court decree. In this way, she actually increased “the risk of inducing psycho-pathologies [...] in the children”… an outcome that the court-appointed psychologist, obviously, did not consider.
Now, she refuses to tell anyone where she is keeping the children and is refusing to let them have any contact with their father, the maternal grandmother (who says her daughter has refused any type of contact in the past 15 years), the paternal grandparents, the paternal aunt and uncle and a maternal uncle (her brother) nor any of their school friends. The children do not seem to be going regularly to school, just as happened in Florence when they were with the mother. Ms. Grin has no family in Russia so it is concerning that the children are alone with her, possibly locked up somewhere.
Background to the Escape
On December 7, 2010 the Court of Florence issued an order: “A) providing custody of minor children […] exclusively to the father, to be domiciled at his home; B) the mother will see the children […] every week on Friday, from the end of school until Saturday at 15:00 […] and – on alternate weeks – from the end of school on Friday through Sunday afternoon at 17:00” … “The court orders Marianne Grin to comply with the above measures, leaving open the possibility of supervised visits in the event of non-compliance.”
Courts in Italy award sole exclusive custody to fathers less than 2% of the time (http://www.istat.it/en/archive/32717 In 2009 “86.2% of separations with children were with joint custody, as opposed to 12.2% in which custody of the children was awarded exclusively to the mother.”)
The Court appointed psychologist’s report to the judge dated November 2010 said:
“From what emerges from the monitoring, we retain necessary to suggest to the Court some modification in respect to the actual organization of the life of the minors. Currently, the center of the daily life of the children is situated at the maternal residence and the mother is the figure that is prevalently requested to care for the minors. Faced with this task however, Ms. Grin has until today demonstrated to be inadequate. She has not collaborated with the other figures that take care, in various forms, of the children (Social Services, Therapists, educators from the Jewish Community) resulting frequently unavailable, contrasting and at times hindering their work. Also with respect to school frequency, the mother has demonstrated a bizarre and unpredictable behavior: she goes to pick up the children before the end of the lessons; she does not bring them to school, at times without valid reasons.”
We at bringflorentinekidshome believe these were more than enough reasons to take away the custody from the mother and place the children solely with the father. But this is not the whole story. There are multiple levels to this incredible tale, and it gets darker than could ever have been imagined. We will save those recounts for future reading…
As Lord Byron said, “Tis strange – but true; for truth is always strange; Stranger than fiction.”
Some of the press on the story